If we dig deeper for a moment… There is always an underlying emotional reason behind having a complicated relationship with food. These are the reasons why I believe so many of us have developed a complicated relationship with food and our bodies:
When I was 13 years old I became a chronic fad dieter and I developed a complicated relationship with food as a result. Looking back I was very afraid of not being accepted or loved and fearful of rejection after immigrating to Australia. I used food and weight as a means of controlling the pain and insecurity I was feeling at the time. My weight became a barometer for self love and acceptance. My worth was measured by a number on the scales. After years of dieting and years of hating on myself, I had become so disconnected to my body. Losing this sense of love and appreciation lead to a serious lack of trust.
When you lack trust in your body, anxiety is the natural result. Food control is so often anxiety-based. Because food is such an integral part of our lives, controlling it allows us to cope with anxiety around family relationships, social groups, the pressure to look a certain way, our weight and body image. Food brings comfort – in choosing to eat or avoid certain foods you feel like you have gained control. There is so much pressure in our society to be thin; from media (especially social media!) and celebrity culture. There could also be pressure in your family – comments or criticism about your weight or how you eat. Food is not meant to be so complicated.
Questions to ask yourself:
These are not easy questions to answer. And it took me a very long time to deal with this difficult topic.
How to rebuild a foundation of love for yourself:
It really is about learning to trust your body again. Dealing with that fear – of not being loved or accepted.
This is not an easy or quick fix – but it is so worth it. Love yourself. Know that you are enough. I am here and listening to you. Let me know how you go xx
My Emotional Eating Guide has more tips to help rebuild your relationship with food and your body, you can find it here.
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