Most of you my beautiful followers may have seen a picture or two on instagram of my man, Dean. He is very private- hates instagram and most social media- so he will kill me when he reads I have written a post about him!! But I thought I would share something personal with you all once in a while..
About 2 years ago I was a girl looking for love in all of the wrong places.
Lost. Sad. Broken hearted. My self-esteem was shot. I battled with who I was. I felt rejected and undervalued. My behavior was a manifestation of my pain and loss of self-dignity. I drank too much, ate to be skinny (but I was only getting fatter), I was sleep deprived, partying around the world- Lost and insecure. My poor hormones were totally out of balance. I was a healthy mess.
I came out of a 4/5-year turbulent relationship that destroyed my self-esteem and the essence of who I was. This relationship defined me. I know so many of you have been through the same kind of journey. A break up can really break you. But I let it…
You don’t have to let it…
Dean was my catalyst who picked me back up.
2 years ago today I met Dean. He changed my world. He opened my heart. Taught me what true love was. He is my mentor; my best friend and I believe he brings out the very best in me. I honestly dedicate my health to him.
Dean was the one who reminded me that I am worth more. He reminded me that my life was in my hands and I could no longer blame it on everything and any one else. He was my catalyst who picked me up and taught me that my life is ready to bloom, that I could have the most spectacular life if I wanted and that I am good enough just as I am. (My previous partner had made me feel the opposite). And that I have so much to offer the world. And my journey of self-love and healing began. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
So why am I writing to all of you about this? Because I have a lesson to share…
Looking back now I can see clearly how my past relationship was really impacting on my health without even knowing it. Feelings of disappointment and betrayal from a relationship will absolutely manifest into bodily stress and trauma. Our body listens closely to all we do and FEEL. I NEEDED my previous boyfriend (a result of him making me feel so insecure). I allowed the relationship to define who I was, this love, is not healthy. Consequently my health declined too. Every medical test reflected this: I developed cysts on my ovaries, my cortisol (stress hormone) was sky high, my weight was creeping up (from all of the stress, alcohol and late night comfort food I am sure), my skin was breaking out into shingles (true sign of anxiety) and I had unstoppable reflux.
I truly believe a healthy relationship will and should enhance the healthiest version of you!
My relationship now is based on a healthy mutual respect, not neediness. We are there for one another unconditionally. We don’t need to hear from each other or see each other 24/7. We absolutely love it when we are together but we allow that process to happen naturally. We do not play games and challenge each other to get some kind of reaction that I know so many of us feel we need. There are no tests of love.
He picks me up when I feel down and I do the same for him. We feel no need to explain to any one what we have or how we feel. We aren’t interested in creating an image. Trust is an unspoken topic because they’re no doubts, ever. It is a stress-free relationship!
Is he the one? I hope so. But who knows! I purely wanted to remind you that our relationships are a very important part of the health equation and I want to encourage you to think about if your relationship is benefiting your health. I hope it is! But YOU are the master of your choices.
I look back on my past with love and compassion. I was just trying to find my way. We are all just want love.
All you need is a reminder that you are worth it…
You are worth it!
Hi Jessica, I believe in synchronicity so when I was guided to you .on FB I was intrigued and inspired. I turned 46 last week and my husband bought me your book. I wanted to thank you for sharing your wisdom in such a beautifully presented way. My copy is now filled with tabs and post it notes with actual notes throughout. I am dairy intolerant since having my gallbladder removed 15+ years ago, I don't eat meat, very minimal gluten and was told 12 months ago my gut was not digesting my food properly so I wasn't receiving sufficient nutrients and taking supplements would be a waste of time. My weight fluctuates tending to gain rather than lose but now I believe I have a tool to help me bring my body back into balance that I need for my health and longevity of life - so again thank you. The first few steps to creating a stronger path forward for my health has found its foundation in your beautiful book, The Healthy Life.
With kindest regards Samantha
I'm writing this email because I wanted to tell you how much I love your blog and how you really helped me in my health journey. Thank you for sharing all your advices and experiences.
When I started my studies, I was drinking lots of coffee and I was eaten the wrong foods, and feel bad about it, I wasn't at my best. So I had done some research on the net but at first I didn't found advices that are for me, and then I found your blog. It was exactly what I was looking for, good advices and healthy recipes. Now I'm following your advices on rest more, and snacks between meals and prep the meals and take time for myself to reconnect with my body and let go my anxiety, etc, and I have a more balanced life and have a new relationship with food thanks to you.
I bought your book and it's honestly the best book I have ever bought. I suffer from IBS and anxiety. I have paid so much money seeing naturopaths however after reading your book and all of your tips I'm noticing so much of a difference, so simple and easy to follow. And symptoms have dramatically decreased. Also you have helped me to relax. Currently drinking the protein health smoothie! Thankyou your amazing.
Hey Jessica! I haven’t yet brought ‘The Healthy Life’, but I do have the clean life and your slim down plan! I would like to thank you so much for the knowledge your share and the message you put across about health and wellness. I’m studying Nutritional Medicine in Melbourne and absolutely love the philosophy that you share with your JSHealth community. The work you’ve done to show people that leading a healthy lifestyle isn’t boring, tasteless, difficult or depriving is amazing and hope to share the message myself one day. You’ve inspired me to start my own blog , to share the message and have taught me so many things about my own health! You should be proud of your achievements! Thank you again
I searched for help and tips through the Internet and found Jessica Sepel. This is seriously not exaggerated, but she was the reason why I have dared myself to eat again, to have snacks in between, to nourish my body. I could slowly improve my negative thoughts about my body image and my stupid anxiety of gaining weight. Besides, The Cleanest Gut was awesome too! A huge thank you! Especially from my mum. Seriously, without you I wouldn’t be where I am now!
Congratulations on your new book! It looks absolutely gorgeous. I’ve been following you on Instagram for a few years and you’ve inspired me to slowly but surely eat healthier without giving myself a hard time when I don’t. It made me so happy (and weirdly proud) to see the Daily Mail article on The Healthy Life. I remember trying out your recipes before you even had your eBook out! I can’t wait to get my hands on the book. Keep up the great work.
Cooking in this way truly brought out the foodie in me and has instilled a huge passion for health and wellness! Life throws you hard and frustrating things sometimes but I truly believe that this is where we learn more about ourselves and what our passions in life are! Thank you for inspiring me on my journey to health and wellness!
I am a yoga teacher in Johannesburg and am thrilled to have bought your book today. I love making healthy, nutritious food for my family, friends and fellow yogis! Thank you for this book and your inspiration (had to share a pic of my book on my recipe stand in the kitchen).
I bought your beautiful book during the week and told my bestie to go out and buy it also! I love love love it. It is the book I would give to my younger self if I could (I am 41 years old). Everything is just so sensible and informative and is definitely a book all teenagers should have. This should be a text book for girls becoming teens. I will love going back and re-reading it many many times and can't wait to make more of the recipes. Thank you Jess - you are an incredibly inspiring woman and you should feel so proud
My fiancé bought your book and we have cooked some of your meals. Amazing! I love your outlook on a healthy lifestyle and your hints and tips with preparing tasty meals are fantastic. Thanks for reviving us to live a healthier lifestyle and get our bodies wedding ready.
I want to empower you to make good choices, every day. I want you to enhance your understanding of health and nutrition. I'm committed to making sure you live the best life. Because you deserve it. Are you ready to start feeling great?
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