How I Cope with Jealousy and Competition from Success



This blog is coming from a place of total honesty. I think it’s important to write about sensitive topics like this because, at the end of the day, the blog is an expression of what I am thinking and feeling. It’s a place to help me cope with struggles and anxieties, and I hope, through this honesty, that it’s something you can relate to as well.

I’ve been blogging for about 2 years now; as you know, I started this blog to share my personal story and struggles. There was never an intention or even a thought of creating a business from it. There was no desire for attention and praise. I simply did it for me and for the passion I was developing for healthy living.

As my practice and readership grew, I wanted to cultivate it. I eventually decided to create a team to assist me with the business aspects because, honestly, that’s not what I care about. I care about my message and story helping women and teenagers around the world. I’m so grateful that, through this blog, the message is able to travel far beyond the reach of what I could do individually. Incredibly, it has become a successful full-time career. It’s fulfilling in ways I never could have expected, in both a business and personal capacity.

But as it’s become more successful, I have noticed something: people become weird! Not everyone, of course, but some people have not been supportive. And it’s hard for me to not take that personally, because JSHealth is my passion. The message is personal, because it’s mine.

So when I sense jealousy and competition, I become anxious. I tone down my success and my excitement, and I sometimes even find myself being derogatory. I don’t acknowledge my hard work. I give over my power to the person who is insecure and competitive. I want to make them feel good so they don’t feel threatened. Have you ever found yourself doing that too?

What I’m learning is that criticism is an inevitable part of success. But that doesn’t make it easy. I sometimes hear rumblings about me and my work:

“She got lucky.”

“Her recipes aren’t even that good.”

“She didn’t really create those on her own.”

Even though I know the truth, the words hurt. Because I work so hard. I created every single recipe with focus and the desire to make them delicious enough to share with this community, and to help people enjoy healthy food.

I am grateful that most of the feedback is positive. And perhaps the reason the negative is so hard is because I find it so easy to be happy for others. I truly love celebrating success, because I know how hard we work for what we’re passionate about.

For example, I recently had a really special book launch to celebrate The Healthy Life. Several people very close to me didn’t come. There was no reason given, and it hurt me deeply. This made me give pause and really think about some uncharted territory, and that’s why I really wanted to process and express this.

I decided to give myself a reality check. I asked myself why I was letting what felt like a snub impact me so much.

Because I prefer to focus on the positive, I turned it around. “Look at all the amazing people who are supporting you. Don’t focus on those who aren’t.”

Another thing to consider: the more success you have, the more it seems people think you don’t need their support. Far from the truth, isn’t it? It’s OK to acknowledge and appreciate support. We all need it!

Don’t forget: we can accept love and praise without playing small.

To be clear, I recognize all of the precious, happy aspects of my life. I am grateful for the beauty in it. I truly believe the universe is on my side (and on yours!). But the reality is that sometimes I feel sad, anxious and confused. I believe it’s important to share that side of me too – even, and especially, when things are going well. Those emotions are just as important to sit with and feel. I think it actually helps us better appreciate the good.

Let’s not be afraid of feeling it all. We are human!




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Hi Jessica, I believe in synchronicity so when I was guided to you .on FB I was intrigued and inspired. I turned 46 last week and my husband bought me your book. I wanted to thank you for sharing your wisdom in such a beautifully presented way. My  copy is now filled with tabs and post it notes with actual notes throughout. I am dairy intolerant since having my gallbladder removed 15+ years ago, I don't eat meat, very minimal gluten and was told 12 months ago my gut was not digesting my food properly so I wasn't receiving sufficient nutrients and taking supplements would be a waste of time.  My weight fluctuates tending to gain rather than lose but now I believe I have a tool to help me bring my body back into balance that I need for my health and longevity of life - so again thank you. The first few steps to creating a stronger path forward for my health has found its foundation in your beautiful book, The Healthy Life.

With kindest regards Samantha

I'm writing this email because I wanted to tell you how much I love your blog and how you really helped me in my health journey. Thank you for sharing all your advices and experiences.

When I started my studies, I was drinking lots of coffee and I was eaten the wrong foods, and feel bad about it, I wasn't at my best. So I had done some research on the net but at first I didn't found advices that are for me, and then I found your blog. It was exactly what I was looking for, good advices and healthy recipes. Now I'm following your advices on rest more, and snacks between meals and prep the meals and take time for myself to reconnect with my body and let go my anxiety, etc, and I have a more balanced life and have a new relationship with food thanks to you.

I bought your book and it's honestly the best book I have ever bought. I suffer from IBS and anxiety. I have paid so much money seeing naturopaths however after reading your book and all of your tips I'm noticing so much of a difference, so simple and easy to follow. And symptoms have dramatically decreased. Also you have helped me to relax. Currently drinking the protein health smoothie! Thankyou your amazing.


Hey Jessica!
I haven’t yet brought ‘The Healthy Life’, but I do have the clean life and your slim down plan! I would like to thank you so much for the knowledge your share and the message you put across about health and wellness. I’m studying Nutritional Medicine in Melbourne and absolutely love the philosophy that you share with your JSHealth community. The work you’ve done to show people that leading a healthy lifestyle isn’t boring, tasteless, difficult or depriving is amazing and hope to share the message myself one day. You’ve inspired me to start my own blog , to share the message and have taught me so many things about my own health! You should be proud of your achievements! Thank you again

- Jacinta

I searched for help and tips through the Internet and found Jessica Sepel. This is seriously not exaggerated, but she was the reason why I have dared myself to eat again, to have snacks in between, to nourish my body. I could slowly improve my negative thoughts about my body image and my stupid anxiety of gaining weight. Besides, The Cleanest Gut was awesome too! A huge thank you! Especially from my mum. Seriously, without you I wouldn’t be where I am now!


Congratulations on your new book! It looks absolutely gorgeous. I’ve been following you on Instagram for a few years and you’ve inspired me to slowly but surely eat healthier without giving myself a hard time when I don’t. It made me so happy (and weirdly proud) to see the Daily Mail article on The Healthy Life. I remember trying out your recipes before you even had your eBook out! I can’t wait to get my hands on the book. Keep up the great work.

– Sophie

Cooking in this way truly brought out the foodie in me and has instilled a huge passion for health and wellness! Life throws you hard and frustrating things sometimes but I truly believe that this is where we learn more about ourselves and what our passions in life are! Thank you for inspiring me on my journey to health and wellness!


I am a yoga teacher in Johannesburg and am thrilled to have bought your book today. I love making healthy, nutritious food for my family, friends and fellow yogis! Thank you for this book and your inspiration (had to share a pic of my book on my recipe stand in the kitchen).

– Helene

I bought your beautiful book during the week and told my bestie to go out and buy it also! I love love love it. It is the book I would give to my younger self if I could (I am 41 years old). Everything is just so sensible and informative and is definitely a book all teenagers should have. This should be a text book for girls becoming teens. I will love going back and re-reading it many many times and can't wait to make more of the recipes. Thank you Jess - you are an incredibly inspiring woman and you should feel so proud

Michelle Curtis

My fiancé bought your book and we have cooked some of your meals. Amazing! I love your outlook on a healthy lifestyle and your hints and tips with preparing tasty meals are fantastic. Thanks for reviving us to live a healthier lifestyle and get our bodies wedding ready.