What I wish I could have heard.
Firstly – you will be totally okay. I know right now it feels as if you’re not good at anything. And you often feel like you’re failing at life. Know that you are going to be okay. More than okay. You will be a happy, healthy girl. You will create for yourself a career you’ve always wanted: to be a nutritionist who is able to help people live their own healthy life (PS – that will be the name of one of your books). Yes, you are going to be a health author. But most importantly, you’re going to just LOVE what you do. You will wake up everyday bursting with a passion to help people live a happier and more balanced life. But I know you feel like you’re never going to be good at anything. You watch, my girl!
I know that you’ve started dieting and fearing food and that you’re petrified of gaining weight. I know it’s been torturing you. And that your body image and self-esteem has suffered. But you will work through it.
Remember what your mom told you though – just eat everything with balance. Keep your body moving daily and never deprive yourself – and your body will be at its best. And diets don’t work. It’s true! Don’t fall for the trap of dieting. Trust in your body and eat as you have been brought up to eat: wholefoods!
Being thin doesn’t make you happy – I promise ! In fact, it is going to make you feel so sad and lifeless for a while. But go and see a good doctor and therapist, and you will be fine. I know you’re always feeling guilty about food, but it is a waste of precious time. Such a waste. Focus on things that actually matter. You are just trying to control your pain with food.
You’re feeling a bit down, sad and maybe a little bit depressed. This is very much part of what most teenagers go through.
You are not alone.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s not an easy time. But it gets easier and easier as you get older. I know you wake up anxious and scared. But it passes. You are good enough. You are more than good enough. You have so much to offer the world. Don’t let people at school or your boyfriend make you feel otherwise – you stronger than this. I know you are.
You feel so alone. But know that you are never going to be alone.
You have the most loving family and friends. And you’re going to meet a man that brings you an eternity of love. Even though you don’t feel worthy of such love. You are. And you only deserve to be with a man who loves you from your head to your toes. I know your boyfriend doesn’t make you feel you pretty, clever, sexy or thin enough – don’t believe it. You are. And if anyone makes you feel that way, they shouldn’t be in your life.
You have no confidence right now. It will come back and you will use your confidence to help the world.
Remember this, Jess. Always.
You are not alone.
You are worthy of the most incredible life.
You are deserving of love, and to be loved.
You have the power to help yourself.
You are strong. Stronger than you think.
You have the power to help others.
Have faith in your message.
Thin and pretty doesn’t matter. What matters is that you love yourself from the inside out for a happy body and life.
Diets don’t work, but a whole food balanced way of life does.
Everything will be okay.
You are good enough.
Hi Jessica, I believe in synchronicity so when I was guided to you .on FB I was intrigued and inspired. I turned 46 last week and my husband bought me your book. I wanted to thank you for sharing your wisdom in such a beautifully presented way. My copy is now filled with tabs and post it notes with actual notes throughout. I am dairy intolerant since having my gallbladder removed 15+ years ago, I don't eat meat, very minimal gluten and was told 12 months ago my gut was not digesting my food properly so I wasn't receiving sufficient nutrients and taking supplements would be a waste of time. My weight fluctuates tending to gain rather than lose but now I believe I have a tool to help me bring my body back into balance that I need for my health and longevity of life - so again thank you. The first few steps to creating a stronger path forward for my health has found its foundation in your beautiful book, The Healthy Life.
With kindest regards Samantha
I'm writing this email because I wanted to tell you how much I love your blog and how you really helped me in my health journey. Thank you for sharing all your advices and experiences.
When I started my studies, I was drinking lots of coffee and I was eaten the wrong foods, and feel bad about it, I wasn't at my best. So I had done some research on the net but at first I didn't found advices that are for me, and then I found your blog. It was exactly what I was looking for, good advices and healthy recipes. Now I'm following your advices on rest more, and snacks between meals and prep the meals and take time for myself to reconnect with my body and let go my anxiety, etc, and I have a more balanced life and have a new relationship with food thanks to you.
I bought your book and it's honestly the best book I have ever bought. I suffer from IBS and anxiety. I have paid so much money seeing naturopaths however after reading your book and all of your tips I'm noticing so much of a difference, so simple and easy to follow. And symptoms have dramatically decreased. Also you have helped me to relax. Currently drinking the protein health smoothie! Thankyou your amazing.
Hey Jessica! I haven’t yet brought ‘The Healthy Life’, but I do have the clean life and your slim down plan! I would like to thank you so much for the knowledge your share and the message you put across about health and wellness. I’m studying Nutritional Medicine in Melbourne and absolutely love the philosophy that you share with your JSHealth community. The work you’ve done to show people that leading a healthy lifestyle isn’t boring, tasteless, difficult or depriving is amazing and hope to share the message myself one day. You’ve inspired me to start my own blog , to share the message and have taught me so many things about my own health! You should be proud of your achievements! Thank you again
I searched for help and tips through the Internet and found Jessica Sepel. This is seriously not exaggerated, but she was the reason why I have dared myself to eat again, to have snacks in between, to nourish my body. I could slowly improve my negative thoughts about my body image and my stupid anxiety of gaining weight. Besides, The Cleanest Gut was awesome too! A huge thank you! Especially from my mum. Seriously, without you I wouldn’t be where I am now!
Congratulations on your new book! It looks absolutely gorgeous. I’ve been following you on Instagram for a few years and you’ve inspired me to slowly but surely eat healthier without giving myself a hard time when I don’t. It made me so happy (and weirdly proud) to see the Daily Mail article on The Healthy Life. I remember trying out your recipes before you even had your eBook out! I can’t wait to get my hands on the book. Keep up the great work.
Cooking in this way truly brought out the foodie in me and has instilled a huge passion for health and wellness! Life throws you hard and frustrating things sometimes but I truly believe that this is where we learn more about ourselves and what our passions in life are! Thank you for inspiring me on my journey to health and wellness!
I am a yoga teacher in Johannesburg and am thrilled to have bought your book today. I love making healthy, nutritious food for my family, friends and fellow yogis! Thank you for this book and your inspiration (had to share a pic of my book on my recipe stand in the kitchen).
I bought your beautiful book during the week and told my bestie to go out and buy it also! I love love love it. It is the book I would give to my younger self if I could (I am 41 years old). Everything is just so sensible and informative and is definitely a book all teenagers should have. This should be a text book for girls becoming teens. I will love going back and re-reading it many many times and can't wait to make more of the recipes. Thank you Jess - you are an incredibly inspiring woman and you should feel so proud
My fiancé bought your book and we have cooked some of your meals. Amazing! I love your outlook on a healthy lifestyle and your hints and tips with preparing tasty meals are fantastic. Thanks for reviving us to live a healthier lifestyle and get our bodies wedding ready.
I want to empower you to make good choices, every day. I want you to enhance your understanding of health and nutrition. I'm committed to making sure you live the best life. Because you deserve it. Are you ready to start feeling great?
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